What was once a taboo, unspoken about subject is now a more common form of sex with 36% of woman and 44% of men aged between 25-44 years partaking in anal sex.  So maybe you’re thinking about trying it out for the first time or you’ve tried it before but feel you could learn a bit more before going in for seconds. Here’s a few things you should know about anal sex.

Don’t believe everything you’ve seen in movies or porn. They make it look so easy and effortless but behind the scenes, they’ve done major pre prep! As the anus does not self-lubricate, the way the vagina does. This form of sex is way more high maintenance than others. You’ll need a lot of lube, and I mean a lot! You’ll also need to come up with some sort of a pre anal hygiene routine to ensure no unwanted accidents occur!

Experiment on yourself first

Consider trying anal play on yourself first and figure out what you enjoy. Try lubbing up your finger and gently massaging the area before slipping a finger or two in. Once you’re comfortable you could try inserting a small butt plug which could later lead to a larger sized toy. If you are experimenting with your partner now would be a good time to test the waters and allow him to insert his penis slowly. Getting the head in is going to be the most painful part as it is the largest part of the penis but once you’ve got past the hard part, pun very much intended. You should be smooth sailing from there on out.

Hygiene

I suggest setting up a pre anal hygiene routine. Go to the bathroom half an hour to an hour before you plan on doing anal. Empty your bowels and clean all around the anal area with warm water and soap. If you are looking to be extra clean, you could try doing an enema 1 to 2 hours before anal. Use a couple cups of warm water to clean out 15-20cm of your rectum, be careful of using too much water as you could make things even messier.

Who will you be trying anal with?

If you are a first timer and feeling nervous, I suggest you ask yourself, who are you doing anal with? Are you comfortable with the person? Because if you are not comfortable you may put yourself in an extremely awkward situation. So, try it with someone you’ve slept with before and you are already familiar with each other’s bodies and what each other enjoy sexually.

Lube

Lube is one of the most important parts of anal. As the anus does not produce enough natural lubricants you should use an artificial water-based lubricant to ensure ultimate comfortability and pleasure.

Condoms

Now you may think condoms are not necessary for anal sex, you are wrong. There are all sorts of bacteria and infections in the anus, and you are at an even higher risk of contracting diseases than you are from vaginal sex. Especially in woman as the skin and tissue around the anus is more fragile and can easily tear, leading to infection and bacteria. Unprotected anal sex can lead to all kinds of sexually transmitted infections, namely HIV, herpes, syphilis, hepatitis, gonorrhea and chlamydia.

Let the receiver guide penetration

I suggest the receiver guides penetration as they will know their limits and when to stop. Start with very slow gentle penetrations and work your way up to a faster pace as you feel more comfortable.

What positions should you try?

There are many great positions you could try but many people say that missionary, doggy-style or lying on their back hurts the least. But I suggest trying a few positions and experimenting with your boundaries.

If it hurts, stop

If you start to feel more pain than pleasure, stop. You could cause harm to your body, although rare, there is still a chance. The tissue around the anus is very fragile and delicate and could tear very easily.

Don’t be alarmed by noises

Accept the fact that anal sex is just that, anal sex. so, it is only natural that all sorts of funny noises will come out of you, and it is completely normal.

Don’t double dip

Although you may be tempted to go straight from anus to vagina, I would not suggest that. Bacteria found in the stool can be spread to the vagina and cause infections such as yeast infections and more. Before bouncing between the two, clean up first. Wash the penis, toy, or finger before going from anus to vagina to ensure no bacteria is spread.

Go the bathroom when you’re done

Just like after vaginal sex, you should use the bathroom to help flush bacteria out of the urethra and thereby reduce the risk of UTI’s. Same should apply for anal sex, as any bacteria surrounding the anus could be transferred to the vagina. And chances are, you’ll probably need the bathroom when you’re done anyway!

Anal sex can be extremely fun and exciting and if its anything less than that, that’s okay too!

Rocks-Off

Established in 2003, Rocks-Off enjoys a global presence with production facilities in the UK and China. With headquarters and warehouse facilities in the UK, Rocks-Off are suppliers to major distributors, wholesalers and retail chains on all continents and are uniquely positioned to support large order volumes.

Rocks-Off is the number one European supplier for own brand and branded products with the worldwide number one best seller being the RO-80mm bullet – with over 6 million sold to date.

Their products are produced with body safe materials, meet the highest level of conformity and unless otherwise stated, are tested 100% water proof and are fully submersible. Each product comes with a unique registration number giving both suppliers and customers a full non quibble product satisfaction guarantee.

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Delivery Options

We offer free courier delivery to door on all orders over R1000

All parcels will be delivered fast and discreetly to anywhere in South Africa.

If your order is below R1000 a delivery fee of R110 will be charged.

When will I receive my order?

Deliveries placed before 10h00 will be delivered within 3 to 5 working days. Applies only to main centre’s (Cape Town, Durban, Johannesburg, Port Elizabeth, and Pretoria)

If you reside outside of a main centre, please allow for 4 to 6 working days for your order to be delivered.

Please note orders are only packaged from Monday to Friday between 08h00 – 10h00, orders placed after 10h00 will be processed and packaged the following business day 

Please note we do not deliver or send out orders on the weekends and public holidays

Overnight shipping: if you choose to select this option, please note that this option does not apply to those residing in outlying areas. This option only applies to main centres (Cape Town, Johannesburg, Durban, Port Elizabeth, Pretoria)

Your order will need to be placed before 9:30am to apply for overnight shipping. Please note that if you place your order before 9:30am on a Friday, you will receive your package on the following business day (Monday)

Peak Season (Black Friday/Cyber Monday Week and December/Early January)

Due to these high volumes of freight, parcels might be delayed with both local and regional deliveries to be affected. Delivery timelines will be extended and will look something like this:

OVERNIGHT : ± 3 - 4 working days (MAIN CENTERS as mentioned Above)

ECONOMY : ± 5 - 7 working days, excluding the day of collection (Areas outside of Main Centers)

Who will deliver my order?

Courier Guy will delivery your order door to door.

When will my order be packaged?

Please note orders are only packaged from Monday to Friday between 08h00 – 10h00, orders placed after 10h00 will be processed and packaged the following business day

Please note we do not deliver or send out orders on the weekends and public holidays

If your order is placed on the weekend or after hours, we will process and dispatch your order the following business day.

 If you place an order on a Thursday after 10am please allow for extra delivery time as your order will only be dispatched on Friday.

How do I track my order?

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Discreet delivery

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Will my package be discreet?

Your package will be 100% discreet with no obvious labelling.

What will my package look like?

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What will show up on my bank?

We are one step ahead, as we know to many of you, privacy is super important. On all charges and statements, it will reflect as “HSB Trading (Pty) Ltd”

What will show up on my waybill/shipping label?

Once again, there will be no obvious labelling, on your waybill it will reflect as “HSB Trading (Pty) Ltd”

Who will deliver my package? 

We use The Courier Guys services to deliver your packages with care and efficency.