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What was once a taboo, unspoken about subject is now a more common form of sex with 36% of woman and 44% of men aged between 25-44 years have anal sex. So maybe you’re thinking about trying it out for the first time or you’ve tried it before but feel you could learn a bit more before going in for seconds. Here’s a few things you should know about anal sex.
Don’t believe everything you’ve seen in movies or porn. They make it look so easy and effortless but behind the scenes, they’ve done major pre prep! As the anus does not self-lubricate, the way the vagina does. This form of sex is way more high maintenance than others. You’ll need a lot of lube, and I mean a lot! You’ll also need to come up with some sort of a pre anal hygiene routine to ensure no unwanted accidents occur!
Consider trying anal play on yourself first and figure out what you enjoy. Try lubbing up your finger and gently massaging the area before slipping a finger or two in. Once you’re comfortable you could try inserting a small butt plug which could later lead to a larger sized toy. If you are experimenting with your partner now would be a good time to test the waters and allow him to insert his penis slowly. Getting the head in is going to be the most painful part as it is the largest part of the penis but once you’ve got past the hard part, pun very much intended. You should be smooth sailing from there on out.
I suggest setting up a pre anal hygiene routine. Go to the bathroom half an hour to an hour before you plan on doing anal. Empty your bowels and clean all around the anal area with warm water and soap. If you are looking to be extra clean, you could try doing an enema 1 to 2 hours before anal. Use a couple cups of warm water to clean out 15-20cm of your rectum, be careful of using too much water as you could make things even messier.
If you are a first timer and feeling nervous, I suggest you ask yourself, who are you doing anal with? Are you comfortable with the person? Because if you are not comfortable you may put yourself in an extremely awkward situation. So, try it with someone you’ve slept with before and you are already familiar with each other’s bodies and what each other enjoy sexually.
Lube is one of the most important parts of anal. As the anus does not produce enough natural lubricants you should use an artificial water-based lubricant to ensure ultimate comfortability and pleasure.
Now you may think condoms are not necessary for anal sex, you are wrong. There are all sorts of bacteria and infections in the anus, and you are at an even higher risk of contracting diseases than you are from vaginal sex. Especially in woman as the skin and tissue around the anus is more fragile and can easily tear, leading to infection and bacteria. Unprotected anal sex can lead to all kinds of sexually transmitted infections, namely HIV, herpes, syphilis, hepatitis, gonorrhea and chlamydia.
I suggest the receiver guides penetration as they will know their limits and when to stop. Start with very slow gentle penetrations and work your way up to a faster pace as you feel more comfortable.
There are many great positions you could try but many people say that missionary, doggy-style or lying on their back hurts the least. But I suggest trying a few positions and experimenting with your boundaries.
If you start to feel more pain than pleasure, stop. You could cause harm to your body, although rare, there is still a chance. The tissue around the anus is very fragile and delicate and could tear very easily.
Accept the fact that anal sex is just that, anal sex. so, it is only natural that all sorts of funny noises will come out of you, and it is completely normal.
Although you may be tempted to go straight from anus to vagina, I would not suggest that. Bacteria found in the stool can be spread to the vagina and cause infections such as yeast infections and more. Before bouncing between the two, clean up first. Wash the penis, toy, or finger before going from anus to vagina to ensure no bacteria is spread.
Just like after vaginal sex, you should use the bathroom to help flush bacteria out of the urethra and thereby reduce the risk of UTI’s. Same should apply for anal sex, as any bacteria surrounding the anus could be transferred to the vagina. And chances are, you’ll probably need the bathroom when you’re done anyway!
Anal sex can be extremely fun and exciting and if its anything less than that, that’s okay too!
Raise your hand if you’ve ever tossed a sex toy back into your goodie drawer after a job well done so you could roll over and enjoy the afterglow. It’s a good idea to clean any sex toy you’ve used right after you’ve used it.
Disinfecting and properly storing your sex accessories may be the last thing on your mind after using it.
Different materials require different care. it is always a good idea to also refer to your toy’s manual, if possible, to learn the best way to clean it.
When buying your sex toy it is always a good idea to buy some cleaning products to help the cleaning process, Have a look at the toy cleaners we have in stock
Lubes are a very important part of having sex. Have a look at our selection of water based lubricants or our Silicone Lubricants.
There are different types of lubricants to suit different needs. It’s totally normal if you favor one over the rest, or if you like to switch things up depending on the situation. Whether you’re a first-time buyer or looking to expand your lubricant collection, there’s one out there for you, guaranteed.
The more lube the better, it make sure everyone is comfortable
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We can assure you that every package is treated with the same high level of confidentiality and discretion. Every package is well-wrapped and there is no indication on the outside of where it comes from or what the contents are.
We offer free shipping on all orders over R600! All parcels will be delivered fast and discreetly to anywhere in South Africa. If your order is below R600 a delivery fee of R100 will be charged.
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We offer free shipping on all orders over R600! All parcels will be delivered fast and discreetly to anywhere in South Africa.
If your order is below R600 a delivery fee of R100 will be charged.
When will I receive my order?
Deliveries placed before 10am will be delivered within 1 to 2 working days. Applies only to main center's (Cape Town, Durban, Johannesburg, Port Elizabeth, and Pretoria etc.)
If you reside outside of a main center, please allow for 2 to 4 working days for your order to be delivered.
Peak Season (Black Friday/Cyber Monday Week and December/Early January)
Due to these high volumes of freight, parcels might be delayed with both local and regional deliveries to be affected. Delivery timelines will be extended and will look something like this:
OVERNIGHT: ± 3 - 4 working days (MAIN CENTERS as mentioned Above)
ECONOMY:± 5 - 7 working days, excluding the day of collection (Areas outside of Main Centers)
Who will deliver my order?
Courier Guy will delivery your order door to door.
Or it will be delivered to the PostNet of your choice for collection (***this option will take 2 - 4 days ***)
When will my order be packaged?
We package orders Monday to Friday from 8am – 5pm, if you place your order before 11am, your order will be sent out that day and to be expected the following working day, if you reside in one of the main center's. If not, your order should be expected within 2 to 4 working days.
If your order is placed on the weekend or after hours, we will process and dispatch your order the following business day.
Please note the couriers do not deliver on weekends or public holidays.
If you place an order on a Thursday after 11am please allow for extra delivery time as your order will only be dispatched on Friday to be delivered on Monday.
How do I track my order?
You will receive a tracking number via email after your order is placed. You can track your order via the courier company’s site.
Will my package be discreet?
Your package will be 100% discreet with no obvious labelling.
What will my package look like?
Your package will be 100% discreet, packaged in a plain cardboard box with no obvious labelling. You won’t have to worry about anyone knowing what’s inside the box unless you tell them!
What will show up on my bank?
We are one step ahead, as we know to many of you, privacy is super important. On all charges and statements, it will reflect as “HSB Trading (Pty) Ltd”
What will show up on my waybill/shipping label?
Once again, there will be no obvious labelling, on your waybill it will reflect as “HSB Trading (Pty) Ltd”